Long Distance Friendships

I never want to say goodbye. But I must. I never want to not be able to go back. Bt I can't. Those of us who make real friends, who form true bods, are the ones who're hurt most. At least we think we've formed true bods. The moment we say farewell everything changes.

I don't believe in longe distance relationships. I don't believ in long distance friendships (LDF's) either. Believe me, I've tried them and they generally don't work out. I know the older generations say we have it much easier what with emails and internet and I agree, we do. But I still cannot accept a LDF to be real. Most are artificial with a 'Oh, how've you been?' thrown carelessly about. The person asking is usually not genuine. I know it's hard to hear bu they don't care that much anymore.

In your average freindship you come into physical contact almost everyday. You talk, you hug, you laugh, you joke. All of this is done together. And the things you two talk about are things both of you have experienced or will experience; together

Together. That's the key word here. How can you mantain a healthy friendship if everything you try to talk about is strange and foreign to one person? You may say that the friend can understand the basic idea of what the other wone's saying but it's not the same. It is not the same.

You shared so much of your lives together before but now... Now everything you two go through is diffeerent. When you talk to eachother it's like telling a story, that's how much your lives have changed. And this story is only partially complete. There gaps and hles where important events should be because guess what? Your new life cannot fit on Facebook chat. It cannot be recited over Skype. By repeating events you cut back on time to tell your feelings. And in this short time you two talk you have tow stories t tell. Stories which are chopped, cut, and sliced up so that you can give eachother a brief update.

Not only this but you need to go live these stories. Eventually you don't have time to continue this LDF. Eventually you both drift away.